That’s right! King David’s honest prayer reflects our own cries, doesn’t it? God sees the beginning and the end. And love triumphs over judgement, so be prayerful as you apply these words of wisdom: “There are six things which the LORD hates, Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him: Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, And hands that shed innocent blood, A heart that devises wicked plans, Feet that run rapidly to evil, A false witness who utters lies, And one who spreads strife among brothers.” (Proverbs 6:16-19 NAS), (This passage wasn’t a “stay away from verse” but we are wise to avoid close relationships with people who practice things the Lord says He hates. 4) Know your life will never been the same after being hurt by someone you … He could have stopped it. And I prayed, He prayed, and now we are not even on speaking terms. Some people are just people you know, not soul-sisters. Cultivate your relationship with the Lord first and foremost! Sometimes God causes us to seek him by driving us to him through the loneliness we experience. Check with someone you know has your best interest at heart. The relationships that have Jesus as the center (ie. Don’t suppress them, but at the same time, there’s no need to react to or express your emotions. So I felt guilty for hurting and ashamed that I couldn’t figure out how to be healthy in this relationship. 5. Sometimes, we allow ourselves to endure unnecessary wounding in relationships because we figure it’s our duty or because it brings us to a place of humility that honors Christ. Recognize that all your friends and family members are indeed human and will let you down – you will do the same to them too. My goal is to deliver practical content to encourage you in your relationship with God. We all face suffering in some way, shape or form. Sometimes, God allows demonic temptation as a test. Now check your email to download your e-book and confirm your subscription. Now as an adult, it is generally my husband who reminds me to be careful with my heart. 3. Some people in this world are selfish, lovers of money, or simply greedy. Learn more >>>. I wish the world worked that way outside the little box in my living room. So let’s get honest. 2. If you answered yes to this, then and only then, will you learn to not only pray for someone who’s hurt you, but you’ll learn to shine for Jesus. Pray, pray, pray about your relationships! I want every relationship in my life to brim over with warm fuzzies. You'll also receive fresh content each time I post. She pointed out that when we go the extra mile for someone or suffer those insults, it’s generally for the purpose of our witness. You are choosing not to obey by being in this relationship. Here’s how to forgive someone who has hurt you emotionally. When God does allow Satan or his demons to attack a person, there are reasons for it. It was the will of God to allow him to be afflicted by Satan and suffer various forms of sickness though God was not the direct cause of those illnesses. All I pray is that God allows us to face our pains head on and move forward. She couldn’t see past her pain toward the reason I allowed it—and even caused it. I believe that a life lived well needs a growing and intentional connection with God through Jesus Christ. I’m not great with boundaries. Because we don’t own the rights to our hearts anymore, our Father instructs us to forgive. So here’s my list of verses I use as red flag warnings to be cautious in a relationship. Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble” (John 16:33). He gives you the answers you were looking for through these people. Does God Want You to Spend Time with People Who Always Hurt You? Pray before you go to visit/chat with a friend, pray during your visit and pray afterward. April Motl is a pastor’s wife who loves to laugh, loves her man, loves to talk on the phone entirely too long and most of all, loves her Lord. It’s always meant to turn us away from evil and back toward Him. After that, have nothing to do with them. He allows us to choose whether we will cling to grudges or grace. That’s wrong. If you can’t trust anyone close to you because they were the ones who destroyed your heart; then, by faith, seek out someone you can trust…a mentor who has endured what you’ve endured and knows Jesus Christ as his/her Savior. April has been privileged through her own church and ministry outside her local body to share God's Word with women ranging in ages and stages, across denominations, and walks of life. Pray! So apply grace liberally in those relationships. So when reality hits, God becomes the scapegoat—because He could have stopped it all. 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Sometimes you can’t explain why you are attracted to a certain person – you just are. But at the end of the day, our heart belongs to our Lord! It's easy! Years later, I pondered how we can carry this same attitude into our relationship with God. And sometimes that is the best solution. While there are a plethora of verses that instruct us to take up our cross and follow Christ (Mark 8:34), there’s much needed discernment in applying godly wisdom to our relationships as well. God’s correction sure does hurt, but it will never harm us. God has a great future planned for you and He can’t give it to you with dysfunctional people around you messing it up. Well, there was an error submitting your subscription. And this confirmed what I already know — what I sometimes forget to remember: God always has a better plan. I had a best guy friend. ), “Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot-tempered man, Or you will learn his ways And find a snare for yourself.” (Proverbs 22:24-25 NAS), “He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, Therefore do not associate with a gossip.” (Proverbs 20:19 NAS), “But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he is an immoral person, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or a swindler — not even to eat with such a one.” (1 Corinthians 5:10 NAS), “But avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these are unprofitable and useless. Where was God when I needed Him? But that’s not the same as God not giving us more than we can handle. I want every issue to be talk-out-able. Goodness: He is a good man. I need the help of the Holy Spirit. God does say He won’t allow us to be tempted beyond what we can bear and that He always provides a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13). You can meet someone new and just “click.” Sometimes you can feel an immense chemistry with a stranger and feel them close to you than someone who you have known for years. “Why did you do that, Daddy? The end result is that He is redeeming and restoring all the evil, pain and suffering of this sin-sick world. In other words, he is considerate with your feelings and he understands your thoughts to make sure he will not hurt you physically, emotionally and mentally. How long will You hide Your face from me? Some days (weeks, months, seasons, years) I feel hard-pressed. God allows pain and suffering and evil because He has a plan, and He’s working His plan. I’ve been where you are. Nothing aches so badly as God’s apparent apathy. Talk to God about every relationship you invest time in. 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